Scott said, “Pack a bag, darling! We’re going on an adventure for Valentine’s Day weekend!” He doesn’t actually call me darling, but it sounds like a romantic 40’s movie, doesn’t it? I always love a getaway, leaving our careers behind, without a care in the world. He knows I appreciate words of love, affection and time together. I know he likes little adventures, spending time together, touch and appreciation, so this kind of weekend works perfectly for us.
How do we know what really ‘turns us on’ in a relationship? We learn by experience, by paying attention to each other, communicating and, for Scott and me, we’ve confirmed it with valuable tools, like this one: ‘Love Languages’, by Gary D. Chapman. We read this book years ago and recently revisited it online. As two psychologists, we find it interesting, even at this stage in our relationship, as we all grow and change. If you are looking for a little insight or inspiration for Valentine’s Day, and are wondering about your lover’s love language, or your own, take the test here. If you want to know more about how our ‘languages’ impact all types of relationships check this out: Love Languages.
My last post, ‘How to Get Your Sexy Back…(even if you’re not feeling it!)‘, generated many insightful, and fun, comments. Even my mom, just a bride of 1 1/2 years of marriage, weighed in. Clearly it’s a topic that we women put some thought into and discuss with our friends. I love hearing your ideas and inspirations, and it’s not too late to add your voice to the discussion here. It’s clearly a hot topic just before Valentine’s Day! For the husbands whose wives are planning to reignite that spark this weekend, you are welcome!!
It takes two to tango!
If you have a love in your life, enjoy celebrating each other this weekend. If you are between relationships, and/or single by choice, do something special for yourself. Flowers, chocolate, champagne, sparkles are worthy gifts to ourselves, as well as for a lover. If you are looking for a relationship, my best advice is BE OPEN. Get out there, try new things, be curious and adventurous. You just never know who you will meet around the next corner that will change your life.
Happy Valentine’s Day, darlings!