There we were, practically newlyweds, visiting Italy and France, for the first time together. Our happy smiles don’t reveal that we had recently suffered a devastating miscarriage, and were clumsily attempting to co-parent 3 teenage girls (Scott’s daughters) back at home in California. Photos and trips can look so glamorous on the outside, but we all have our struggles.
It’s easy to have the mindset that only the grand gestures light the spark. I will agree that places like Venice and Paris can make your heart beat a bit faster, and yet, I think it’s often the little touches in day-to-day life that matter just as much.
A text or note, during the workday, a special coffee mug or personal surprise, to let your loved one know you are thinking of him, can set the tone for an evening with a little spark. Affection goes a long way in my book. Have you ever tried the 30 second hug? That’s another post in the making but if you haven’t tried it, it’s a brain changer.
On nights when we have planned a date night, at home, I still dress for it (definitely out of the yoga pants). I’ll choose something comfy, but a little sexier, maybe a drape top with a silky maxi skirt, a touch of color to the cheeks, some lip gloss, jewelry and a favorite fragrance. A little candle light, some cool tunes, a little connection earlier in the day, with a splash of bubbly, all help set the mood in our house. The view doesn’t hurt but if you don’t have a view, create one.
As for romance……whether you have a valentine or not……
I’ve shared some of my own tips before on Stylemindchic:
I thought it would be fun to ask my ‘significant other’ Scott what lights his fire
(and maybe I’ll learn something)
If you want to go out, let us know that, as well. “I’d like to go out for dinner. Do you want to make a reservation, or would you like me to take care of that? Or would you rather have a romantic dinner in?” But don’t ask unless you’re okay with any answer.
I love hearing my guy’s perspective (most of the time), and I learn something new each time he joins me on Stylemindchic Lifestyle.
Do you have any favorite tips for lighting the spark?
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