Welcome to the Weekend…(the Power of a Kind Word)

Welcome to the Weekend with Sytlemindchic Lifestyle

I was busy preparing my upcoming post, a mix of travel and humor (two of my favorite things), when I decided to slow it down and write a “Welcome to the Weekend” post today. My Friday mornings, my day off from school psychology, are the first time I have during the week to be truly reflective. My Welcome to the Weekend posts are real-time thoughts and inspirations as I welcome us all to the start of the weekend. On my mind today are the kind words you shared with me on my ‘Stylemindchic Lifestyle Turns 3‘ blog post. I feel touched and inspired to continue my blog journey. I will read your comments any time I need inspiration. My deepest thanks to all my readers for taking the time to comment. Today I am reflecting of the power of a kind word.

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The view from here today

Years ago, while living in the San Francisco Bay area, I was invited to a celebratory dinner party for a dear friend. I was going through a heart-breaking divorce, and, frankly, had to drag myself off the couch to go. I felt defeated, unloved, and like I would rather crawl into a hole. As I approached the toll gate, on the Bay Bridge, I noticed the toll-taker dancing in his booth. I zeroed in on that lane and heard the thumping music as I pulled up. He looked at me, with a huge smile and said, “You are beautiful, and you are glowing. I want to go where you’re going!” It may sound odd, but the clouds parted for me. I looked at my reflection, in the rear view mirror, as I pulled away, and realized that I had not disappeared completely. During other times in life when I’ve lacked self-confidence, I’ve reflected on that moment, when a complete stranger saw something of value in me. I will always be grateful for that toll-taker on the Bay Bridge in San Francisco.

Heather Lindstrom in San Sebastian, Spain
San Sebastian, Spain

It happened to me again, on my visit to San Sebastian, Spain. I was feeling achy, cranky, and like I was coming down with a bug one evening. As we left a crowded tapas bar, a beautiful, curly-haired blonde woman came running after us. She said she felt awkward, maybe she shouldn’t have approached me. She stammered a bit and said, “It must be said, you look so glamorous and happy. We were watching you during dinner and I just wanted you to know.” I hugged her and reassured her that I welcomed her words. Her courage in approaching me, with genuine kindness, was touching. (I also think her perspective may have had something to do with my vivid coral maxi dress.)  If the beautiful German girl I met in San Sebastian is reading this post, I have remembered your words, and your bravery, in reaching out to me as a complete stranger. As I see the painful lives of children at my workplace, the horrible news and all the negativity on social media these days, it makes me realize we need more of her kind of courage.

I wanted to share this story as a reminder about the power of sharing kind words. We often think them, but saying them is a powerful step. You may never know how significantly your words will impact the life of someone, even a stranger. How about it? Let’s be bold and share those kind words with family, friends, and even strangers. It feels so good to reach out and make someone’s day.

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 When was the last time a stranger made your day?

Wishing you a weekend filled with kind words and courage!

xx,

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Oh, I loved both of these stores, Heather. I can just picture the man at the poll gates dancing to the music and saying kind words to you. He sounds like he was a very happy person himself. And you’re right……kind words are so uplifting. Recently, I was surprised by the person taking my order at Starbucks who saw me in line from a distance and asked if I wanted my regular café Americano that morning. I thought it was special she remembered me. We just never know when kind words are coming our way. What a wonderful post today, Heather. And you do look striking in that red dress.

love, ~Sheri

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He was so amazing, Sheri! Clearly he was the man I needed to see that day. I hear he touched many, many lives with his fantastic attitude.I love your story! Doesn’t that make you feel special? It’s the little things that mean so much. Thanks for sharing, sweet Sheri.
xx

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Heather~ I love these moments as well!! How uplifting they can be and even more treasured and special as we (ahem) age! Such a good reminder, Heater, to not withhold kind compliments….even to strangers!

Donna~Faded Velvet

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It’s so true, Donna! It’s easy to start feeling more invisible as we grow older. It’s such good practice to share the kind words.
xx

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Love this so much. Heather sweet stories and you never forgot them.. You exude a very magnetic quality and are fun to be around, and I think that’s what that woman ran up to tell you!
It’s so true a kind word to a stranger can mean everything. I was raised to compliment and say what we like about others. It’s something we all do in our family, but I think it often doesn’t come easy for many..I love the Maya Angelou quote,“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Isn’t that the best?
xxoo Kim

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I feel the same way about, Kim. Thank you! I appreciate you sharing that inspiring quote from Maya Angelou–it’s truly the perfect reminder. My thoughts are with you today, in every way, my dear friend.
xx

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I love this! Kindness goes sooo far and costs nothing. If everyone could give in this regard the world would be a better place. This is silly, but Jack, Calina & I drove down the Esplanade today deciding to roll our windows down and bump the beats…we were dancing in our seats and trying to make people in the cars passing us laugh and smile. Who knew, it actually worked. Tons of people waved, joined in, and rolled their windows down too. It was fun for all! Happy weekend~

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I absolutely LOVE your story, Mel! You and those darling kids spreading happiness and smiles around town on a sunny day! It’s the best! Thanks for sharing, girlfriend!
xx

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So beautiful!! Happy Weekend to you gorgeous lady. This post resonated with me, right now, in my life. The kind words we think but don’t share, serve no one but us! How much more powerful to serve others and uplift them with our kind words!! Pay it forward. Kindness for kindness sake. Expecting no outcome other than to share our hearts and kindness with the world!
You do that for me everytime we speak! You’re an inspiration and a woman I’m proud to call my friend.
Much love,
Jen

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High praise coming from you, my genuinely fabulous friend! Big thanks!
xx

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LOVE the post Heather and the irony is I was just coming to your blog to say thank YOU for the lovely, heartfelt commons you left on my blog. You are such an authentic, kind spirit. I know we have so much in common (Spain, Psychology etc etc), and I truly hope one day you will visit London so I can really give you the hug I so want to give you.
Thank you Sweets; you are a treasure xx

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You are so very welcome, my dear. We do have so much in common…sadly now, the loss of our beloved dads. The beauty of this community is how we are genuinely, authentically there for each other and we care. Thinking of you today and thanks for the lovely words. Here’s to meeting up in person some day!
xx

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So very true, nothing can take the place of kindness to others in even the smallest of ways! A few words cost nothing and can make a peron’s day, week or a remembrance forever like yours Heather!

xoxo
Karena
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The biggest gift is truly the one we receive from giving to others. That’s the sweet bonus, right?
Happy weekend, dear Karena!
xx

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Kind words, especially unexpected ones can go a long way. Have a wonderful weekend, Heather. Hope there will be many kind words exchanged.

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So true, dear Katie. Here’s to many more kind words in life. Stay warm during this snowy weekend!
xx

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That is a lovely post and so true! I think it even feels better to give the kind words as to receive them. Small kindnesses like this make us able to continue enjoying a world that so often is hard to take. Love that toll booth story!!

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Thank you, Anne. It may seem like a small thing, but that comment was a life changer for me. I feel like the timing was so perfect. That’s the thing, we never know what the timing is for someone else. It’s good to error on the side of saying too much good rather than not enough. Happy weekend!
xx

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GOod evening, BEAUTIFUL! Yes, a kind word has always been what I requested on my comments page; there is so much power in what we say and how we say it. I must always remember this because we never know who just may need that at any given moment. I had a rough day today, and I feel horrible. But, I am going out to dinner with my husband and maybe, just maybe, he’ll have a kind word for me. If not, I’ll give him a kind word. Thank you Heather! You shine! Anita

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Anita dear, I hope your day improved significantly once you had time to relax with your favorite guy. I hope you are feeling better, as well. I need an update! We are definitely in sync with the kind words theme. There is just no room for adding that darkness in to the world. Have a wonderful and relaxing weekend, sweet friend.
xx

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I absolutely agree!! Great post and I hope this inspires others to say kind things to strangers and friends. A smile is always a wonderful thing, too! We’re thinking of adding San Sebastian to our itinerary this summer. I will have to look for your blog post on it.
Congrats on 3 years of blogging……I always enjoy your posts! I’m in the process of putting together a blog and it is taking a bit more time than I thought it was going to! I’m not so techie, but I’m getting there!

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Hello April, Thank YOU for the kind words today! You will be enamored of San Sebastian, just as I am. Check out the ‘San Sebastian Getaway’ and ‘How to Dress European Chic’ posts for a flavor of the area. So exciting to hear that you are putting a blog together. Let me know when you start posting, I would love to follow along.
Happy weekend!
xx, Heather

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Kind words are free to the giver, but may be worth millions to the receiver! Beautiful post Heather…meaningful and uplifting. Have a wonderful weekend!
xx Karen

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I love that quote, Karen! Such truth to that concept. It was a little odd to write kind words that I’ve heard, but it is so meaningful.
I’m glad to hear this post resonated with you!
Have a wonderful weekend, Karen.
xx

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