The fine art of solitude…
The good news is that Scott’s back is feeling healthy enough that he was able to join his annual guys’ trip to the coast for a long weekend. The guys have made this trek since grad school and it would have been a bummer for him to miss out.
That’s not the only good news (smile)…
The annual trek means that five wives, sprinkled between Washington and Northern California, had the entire weekend to ourselves. I’ve heard rumors that these fabulous women love their solitary weekend as much as I do each year.
As I kissed Scott goodbye on Thursday, I knew the timing was just right for this kind of weekend.
This last week for me included the hot pursuit of one of our runaway students with the sheriff (I found him), a mole biopsy (thankfully benign), a fender bender in the parking lot at work while acting as administrator (ugh), and witnessing a horrific motorcycle crash, 3 cars ahead, on the freeway (involving a small child). Sadly, I still don’t know if everyone survived. I ended my week on a level of emotional exhaustion I haven’t felt in a long time.
We all have our stresses…
some weeks are simply more challenging than others.
I think the key is knowing when it’s time to slow down and create some time to quiet the mind and seek solitude. One of the first things I do is take an epsom salt bath with soothing music in the background. I created a spa bath at home here. The epsom salt bath is reported to have some healthy benefits and I’m a believer.
When the house is quiet it seems to increase my creativity and productivity…
as well as enhance the moments of relaxation and rest.
I try to find the perfect balance between the two states of mind–productivity and relaxation–in my times of solitude.
Sure, I spent loads of time in my home office, I did some spring cleaning, washed and folded 6 loads of laundry; but I also watched the entire first season of HBO’s engaging ‘Togetherness‘ in one sitting WITH POPCORN…
and I left my dishes until the morning.
Dress for the day or stay in pajamas?? It’s all up to you in times of solitude, right?
This weekend I pulled it together and ventured out once–to brunch with dear, long time friends–feeding both body and soul. We went to Two-Twenty in Chico. Scott and I discovered the delicious brunch menu a couple of weeks ago.
I’m a fan of their Butter Crumb Eggs the eggs have a crumb crust–so southern!
BUTTER CRUMB EGGS
Sautéed Spinach, Roasted Pepper Diavolo Sauce, Heirloom Tomato Hollandaise, Breakfast Potatoes Focaccia Toast
Later, a huge rain storm blew in (changing some of my other plans) and I hunkered down at home to watch the storm and catch up with this guy, Jack. Turns out he can be quite demanding unless he gets some treats. #spoiled
Even if you don’t often have your living space to yourself–or ever–there are still ways to seek solitude. As a new step-mom our house was often full, but I spent many afternoons in our large garden seeking solitude. A walk in the park, a quiet corner of a café, or even in your car parked in a quiet spot during lunch (I do this) can lead to peaceful moments of solitude. It’s all about getting reacquainted with our thoughts and ourselves without all the noise around us.
Turns out the beauty of a weekend of solitude is that you feel completely recharged to welcome back your real life; your loves, your family & friends and to boldly embrace the rhythm of life again.
Scott will be warmly welcomed back later this afternoon. I definitely think small breaks like this are a good thing for a relationship.
When was the last time you had some time to yourself?